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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. This is the only trip we take basically and my son never sees his dad because of work etc. DH has a very demanding schedule and works most weekends. My son lives to be with him when he can. My MIL is very controlling and everything is her way or no way. I am not controlling and my husband has many hobbies and gets free time when he isn't working anytime he would like. I don't restrict him from doing anything. At home I'm basically a single mom so trips together are special. His mother has no respect for our family and us wanting to do things as a family with her included. She can come visit anytime as finances are far from an issue for her and she doesn't work so between her life of going on lavish trips around the world (as she should. I'm not shaming her for that at all), she could come visit and get her alone time. But instead she demands us to come to her but doesn't like us to really be with her but an hour a day except for her alone time with DH. My son has no clue who she is. It's sad but anyways I hate the alone time thing when we are on trips. DH said he would talk to her about leaving me the car. The hotel doesn't have an indoor pool but a restaurant. My 3 yo in a restaurant leaves much to be desired. I'm sure we can uber to a park if DH has the car.[/quote]

OK lady.  You are quite a drama queen.  If you husband doesn't have time with your child, that is your and your husband's problems.  Your husband's mother raised him, cared for him, and spending FOUR house alone time with him is NOT a big deal.  Shessh people, listen to yourself.  This is totally double standard for a "son" versus a "daughter".[/quote]

If it was just about MIL wanting to spend 4 hours alone with her son that would be one thing.  But it sounds as though MIL expects them all to fly out to her turf AND stay in a hotel AND only visit her for an hour or so a day while they are there, she doesn't actually want to do any family things with them.  And then, to top it all off, she expect her son to ditch his family and go out with her for 4 hours straight.

MIL is treating Op, not like family, but like the hired help.  The nanny who is supposed to bring the children in for a visit when MIL feels like seeing them and leave whenever MIL is done with the visit.

I can't blame OP for not wanting to spend her husband's very limited vacation time like this.

They only thing I can suggest is fly out there and plan a mini vacation to an amusement park or some other fun place.  You do not have to see MIL every danged day.[/quote]

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