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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd want to know as a host, and I'd receive it very well if you just said something like, "I'm really looking forward to Jane's baby shower and will definitely be there! If it matters for your arrangements, I am vegetarian. I can always find something to eat, so no need to make special accommodations, but I wanted to let you know in case it helps you with the catering." [/quote]

Noooooo!  This is not the host's problem.  If you have an allergy, ok, but not because you choose to be veg.  If you have a religious objection to eating meat, maybe.  But your lifestyle choice, take a clue from Anna Scott (Julia Roberts) in Notting Hill and be polite and eat what you can.  Approach wait staff if you think you must, but [b]don't give the host any more to worry about[/b].[/quote]

Seriously, how hard is it to say "have three vegetarian meals on hand?" That took 10 seconds to type, 5 seconds to say to the caterer. This is not a big deal.[/quote]

But how hard is it so make a reservation for 25 and have to explain to the caterer "I  need 3 vegetarian meals, plus 2 gluten free meals.  We have four people who have nut allergies, so please make sure that there are no nuts or peanuts in any of the meal.  Oh yes and we need at least one sugar free option for dessert.  And two people deathly allergic to shellfish so no shellfish in any of the meal.    And two people who are lactose intolerant so need options without dairy, yogurt or cheese."   And then the hostess has to confirm all this and verify it before the event.

Requests should be reserved for people who actually might get ill enough to need an emergency room, e.g. serious allergies, before you bother the host.  Otherwise, you discuss with the catering/restaurant staff discretely on the side to figure out what yout options are.  Chances are that they can always come up with an option for most dietary restraints without having to involve the hostess.[/quote]

Obviously you can give a ridiculously extreme example, but even there, look at that, you very succinctly stated it right here, didn't you? Done![/quote]

You've never worked with caterers before, have you?  When you coordinate with caterers, you have to verify everything multiple times (when you initiate, when you confirm, the day of) and each time they'll want to run t hrough all of the special requests that have been included to make sure they have everything.  The host will then need to keep a list of all of the exceptions.

And if you think this is extreme and an exaggeration, you have an especially benign group of friends. [b] In addition to all of the above, we  have friends who keep Kosher, friends who keep Halal, friends who do South Beach, friends who do paleo, a couple old fashioned who only eat meat and potatoes, and a few others I can't place off the of my head.  [/b]

As another PP pointed out, if you think that this "succinct" list is easy to manage just for a bunch of personal preferences, then you probably have never handled this before.  Stop being so self-centered and thinking the world revolved about you.  Your preferences,  you handle it  yourself without bothering your host.[/quote]

Different PP.  So what you are saying is you'll accommodate pretty much everyone else except the vegetarian?  [/quote]

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