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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are three hot spots. 
a) immature first marriages. We know two couples that broke up in this window. One bc wife found out husband didn't want kids ever. Other bc of affair. 
b) 10-15 years. Kids become a drag and life gets monotonous. Again we know two couples in this band. One the wife cheated and other husband cheated. 
c) 22-25 years. These are usually marriages where the parents stuck it out until the kids left home but marriage was already dead. Haven't gotten to this peer group yet. [/quote]

This was pretty much what I was going to mention - starter marriages, marriages just out of the infant/toddler years, and marriages when the kids hit college.

[b]The starter marriage divorces are just slightly more complicated break ups between boyfriends and girlfriends. [/b]

My theory on the ones just out of the infant/toddler years is that the divorce happens sometime around when the kids hit school age. Before that, everyone is just holding on for dear life. When the kids' needs become somewhat less relentless, one or both of the partners finally has time to look around and notice that their marriage has shattered and he or she is deeply unhappy. [/quote]

Oh, please. Don't minimize. My "starter divorce" was the most grief I have ever experienced (married 7 years, together for 10). In my circle, the first wave of divorces was probably pretty predictable, since we married early (21-25). We are on second marriages now. [/quote]

Seven years is not a starter marriage.  Starter marriages tend to burn out before year 3.[/quote]

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