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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ooh yeah...

I spent 5 years trying to explain that my child was gifted AND learning disabled, and needed to be challenged within the bounds of his disabilities, to no avail. That combo is the hardest scenario, as an educator who doesn't have much time with your kid, to understand and plan for. As a parent, I KNOW my child. But these people don't, and I hate to say it, but if they don't have a certain level of intelligence themselves, all their care and professional dedication will only go so far.

I battled during my son's 5th grade year to have the SPED teacher recommend him for a gifted and LD program in middle school, as he had been waitlisted for the magnet. We spent thousands in private evaluations to prove our point, which makes me sad because so many families can't afford this and are left at the mercy of a very imperfect system.[/quote]

OK, I have heard this term gifted and LD, but [b]what does that mean[/b]?  How can that be? Does that mean high IQ but poor results? Is disability in only one area and child excels at other subjects? I am not trying to be sarcastic or smart "something" but could you explain what that means in real life and in real school, how does this reflect grades and learning? Both my kids seem smart to me, but their issues interfere with all aspects of school and life.[/quote]

It means parents want taxpayers to pony up north of $50,000 in free services for said child,[b] stealing resources from other equally unique and amazing kids[/b].

Why they don't just homeschool or go private is beyond me.

Entitlement, some may say.[/quote]

I was off this board for a day or so and I am astounded by the posts put here, especially if this post is by a teacher/service provider.  I am the poster who said that when I brought experts, they were not listened to. All the experts that we have ever used also know the IDEA and what can and cannot be provided in schools. And when the recommendations were followed, my son thrived. All of them have taught and/or have practiced in school and clinical settings.

The problem is when ask for something reasonable and you encounter people in the system who do not understand.  In some cases, they not even take the time to talk with my DS, but just wrote their reports based on reading the testing.

People in special education in public school settings are not trained broadly enough to understand the variety of disabilities they will likely encounter and general ed teachers will tell you that they do not get much follow-up guidance.

One teacher/provider on this board wrote "that is not how schools work". That is exactly the problem.  Some school officials come with a bias and mindset and if your kid does not fit their assumptions, you can have an entire program that was working yanked out from under the child. For the PP who said that you know your field better:  yes, you have studied and practiced.  But I have apprenticed.  I have sat through OT, speech language, Wilson instruction for years and then followed the advice of those providers with "home" work.

My DS is not some"special snowflake." He is a kid who is trying to go to school and learn, just like other kids. The law entitles him to an education.  An education means that he can take care of himself and his family in the future.  The poster here above that is worried about taxpayer money clearly doesn't understand that education is my son's future as a contributing member of society.

DS disability was observed as early as age 2. In this journey, I have met people who do know what they are doing and when they made that happen, public school worked for my kid.  When I met the ignorant and arrogant, my DS suffered.  And since so much of a kid's life is spent in school, it was agony for all of us. I was never condescending to those who wanted my child to do well.  But I have met those who were condescending to me because I was only a "parent". [/quote]

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