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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am Pakistani and I see a lot of my very westernized, secular, accomplished girlfriend be single into their 30s.It is primarily due to them being late bloomers. In the SA community, a lot of emphasis in placed on being bookish and academically inclined in certain households. Many Pakistani-American moms who were themselves forced into arrange marriages when they were very young, work to ensure their daughters have more opportunities. They focus on their education and career and career and do not tell them how to be feminine and flirty. There are of course also Pakistani-American girls who are ultra feminine and sought after but they are groomed from a very early age to seek out a wealthy doctor-type husband and are married by the time they finish their college or graduate degree.

The bookish academic girls grow up to be westernized and accomplished. Usually around 30 they realize they missed the arrange marriage train and work on their looks to become more feminine and desirable. By that point, their accomplishments, education and independence scares off would be Pakistani suitors and the only ones left are honestly white men. The friends I have who married later married white American men. One gorgeous woman married a much older Palestinian man but divorced 2 years later because she was too independent and westernized for him.She is now single and I hope she starts dating white guys. [/quote]

I'm Asian-American. Grew up in a very strict household. I was a nerd. When I went to Harvard, there were other fellow nerds and I made a ton of friends. I had a lot of suitors. I did end up marrying a doctor who wasn't very nerdy. I was quite shy and still am. I have a naturally nice figure and don't wear much make up. I'm almost 40 and still only take about 2 minutes to get ready.

If you are even slightly physically attractive, guys will seek you out. There was no shortage of educated guys in Boston. [/quote]

If you are East Asian American (Chinese, Korean, Japanese), you did not have a problem with suitors because ironically despite educated women having problems with eligible suitors, educated East Asian American women are still highly sought after. They are kind of the outlier to otherwise what every other educated woman of every race (including white) struggle with.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2015/09/08/dont-let-date-onomics-get-you-down/

[b]2. Asian American women aren’t hurt by the “man deficit.”[/b]

Since 67 percent of Asian American women ages 30 to 34 have a college degree, versus 38 percent for all women, Birger assumed that Asian American women “would be far more affected by the man deficit than women from other racial or ethnic groups.” Instead, he found that they don’t have trouble finding a mate.

Eighty-eight percent of Asian American women (ages 30 to 34) are married or have been married, the book notes, compared to 77 percent for white women, 73 percent for Hispanic women and 46 percent for black women. The reason, according to Birger, who cites OkCupid data and other psychological experiments, is that men of all races find Asian women to be the most attractive.[/quote]

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