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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - Not entirely clear why this turned into a discussion of my personal life. Rest assured I have one.

And in terms of why I ask or care, it's bc I've gotten snarky comments from people lately about my choice to rent a 1 bedroom and not buy at least a townhome; a few comments have been from random people - say someone I just met at a party, so it was like who cares. But a few have been from friends. [b]Moved here from NYC 4 yrs ago and people in NYC tend not to ask if you rent/own/want to own. [/b]So I don't know if this is another area of DC snark where people feel superior in their financial knowledge and their net worth bc they own and assume you don't own bc you can't afford it.[/quote]

It's more acceptable to be a high earner and rent in NYC.  Owning is expensive in NY and not always a good move financially.  Here's it's different.  Often times rent is the same if not more than a mortgage on a comparable property.  If you don't own here people assume you're either transient or can't save up for a down payment.

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This. I know high earners in NYC who are renting and may rent forever -- various reasons; it takes a LONG time to save up the down payment for what they want, or even if they have the down payment ready to go, sometimes the mortgage + maintenance + taxes are structured such that it is cheaper to rent and invest the difference. That's less likely to be true here -- and certainly rarely true if you buy a townhome in Md. or Va.

[b]And as I'm sure you've realized New Yorkers are more live and let live[/b]; even if you are making the worst financial move in the world, most of your friends and acquaintances in NYC won't lecture you bc they will assume that you ARE a rational, smart person who must have your reasons. Here -- EVERYONE -- even so called friends -- LOVE to assume that THEY at the smartest and thus you are a moron bc you aren't living how they would be living in your situation. And yes they do feel superiority if they feel you have less than them, financially and thus HAVE TO rent.

Whatever. If you're comfortable with how the numbers are working out for you, keep renting. If/when that ever changes, buy. Just ignore all the "advice" people here try to give you bc you can't assume it's for your benefit.[/quote]

I don't think it's this.  I think it's that many New Yorkers spend all of their money, including high earners. I have quite a few friends who rent and take extravagant vacations, attend pricey charity events, luxury goods etc but rent, don't save any money and still have student loans.  They simply don't seem to care.

I'm way more cautious and ambitiously saving towards retirement, paying my mortgage down and paid for graduate school in cash. [/quote]

True. I do know many high earners in NYC who live large but haven't bought, haven't even really planned when/how they'll buy, and some of them really only started saving for retirement in their mid 30s and even that isn't maxing out. For my friends who are like this though, they have supreme confidence that they absolutely WILL continue to earn 500k or whatever forever, so they don't "need to" plan and can just continue having fun.

In any event, those types of people still judge less than people here. Hard to throw stones that someone hasn't bought, when you yourself are headed off to vacation no. 3 of the yr and aren't looking to buy either.[/quote]

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