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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you expect your kids to care for you (your ex) when you are sick?

My MIL lives in an over 55 community. It's a big issue. Divorced people don't have anybody to care for them. Their kids have lives, they have no partner. Often, when it is a 2nd marriage, the wife/husband leaves when there is an illness. They call the kids and say, I am out of here. [/quote]

This. My parents, actually my dad is 70 and is considering divorce after 40 years of marriage (because my mom nags at him and doesn't respect him). His health is already on the decline and he's not considering that he would lose on Mom taking care of him hand and foot( as she's done the past 40 years). The problem is that their entire assets is $1 mil with only $500 in Social Security. After they split that, their standard of living will go down and most likely they will be mostly alone through deteriorating sickness from old age even if they don't develop a chronic or severe illness. Their one kid has become too busy and has problems of his own, won't be helping out. Their other kid (me) lives across the ocean and has little excess $ with a family of her own (and working FT) and living in the pricey COL area that is the DMV. So in preparation for the day my dad does divorce my mom, I started saving $200 a month in case he needs senior care later. 200 is peanuts and won't cover what the sctual costs will be but all I can do right now.  I'm not equating my parents with OP's situation, but even after 40 years of marriage, divorce will have negative consequences on the kids. [/quote]

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