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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you are 25.  Do not let yourself feel that you have to make ANY definite decisions right now - including getting engaged.

"I'm not ready yet." is a great and fair and reasonable statement to make around engagements of getting married.

THen, you can think about what would help you be ready.  Perhaps you talk/think about the kind of marriage and partnership (and co-parent if kids are something you want) you hope to have.

My list of must-haves would be (based on what I married for, and what I wish I had held out for in a life partner):
- someone who makes me laugh
- someone with an inherently positive outlook on life
- someone with emotional resilience
- a sense of fun and occasional spontaneity
- unfailing honesty and strength of character
- shared morals/ethics
- financially responsible and a harmonious approach to managing finances
- desire to be a parent
- supportive of my career and individual interests including after having kids
- someone who can cook a couple of basic meals
- love of travel
- non smoker
- casual/social drinker only
- mentally and physically healthy
- strong friendships and relationships with others
- kindness
- no racist, homophobic, zenophobic beliefs
- likes dogs/animals
- loves to dance

etc....   Some of those are more important that others.  Some are non-negotiables/must haves.

Do that kind of thinking for yourself.  Talk openly with your SO about those things and find out what his equivalents are.  Talk about where you see challenges and where you naturally align.  Talk and test the challenge areas.

Get some of the relationship tests/compatibility tests/critical questions to ask materials to work through.

Put the time in together if you really think engagement is in your future.  That will help you figure it out either way (and also really help you think about what you want for your life - no matter who your partner is or isn't.)

Good luck.
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