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[quote=Anonymous]I was married for a long time to someone who had the appearance of being reliable.  He was very serious, well educated, dedicated to his career, faithful, etc.  Wasn't one to disappear and watch sports or go out with guy friends, etc.  He seemed supportive of me.

However, he was really only supportive when it was easy for him--when he agreed with me totally.  If I wanted something different than what he wanted, if he thought I was being emotional or unreasonable (which was any time he didn't agree with me), he was not supportive.

We had a high degree of compatibility and little disagreement.  However, looking back, over the years really he got his way any time we had a disagreement.  No flexibility.  I thought my turn would come.

We waited years to have children and when we did, Mr. Reliable was out to lunch as a parent and support person.  It always "made more sense" for me to do things for the household and kids.  He also resented on some level not being the kid anymore and getting all of my attention.  It took having babies to see that my very serious husband was actually just a massive baby.

We're divorced.  My advice to you is to look past "reliable" seeming and ask if he's there for you in the way you need and if he meets you halfway when he disagrees with you.  Is he flexible?  Or are his needs the only needs.  [/quote]

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