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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just a note that paying for the applications herself also means you have no legitimate say in where she applies.  Are you prepared to be left out of that entirely? 
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OP here. I like the idea of setting a budget for applications - say $1000. That gives her at least 10 schools.  What is a reasonable number - I think 9: 2-3 reach, 3 match and 3 safety. As far as my having a say, both her Mom and I have said her choice is exactly that - her choice. I still think she should pay for her HIGH SCHOOL parking pass.

Also, regarding school budget, I've said I guarantee that she can attend any Commonwealth of Virginia school "full ride," but if she wants OOS or private she'll have to cover the difference. I've not discouraged her from looking at privates and emphasized she needs to consider what merit FA they might have on offer. Her school list thus far includes UVA, W&M, JMU, Smith and Simmons. I'm not sure at this point what else she is considering. [/quote]

Her driving to school saves you from driving her.  You pay.[/quote]

[b]Is there not a school bus[/b]?

I would not pay for high school parking unless doing so somehow was a big benefit to me or the family. E.g., if the only way for DD to get to school was for [b]someone to drive her[/b], I might pay for parking to avoid having to drive her myself every day. Or if the only other way for DD to get to school was to s[b]pend an hour on the bus each way, and driving to school saved a lot of time[/b], I might pay for parking to spare her the time. Or if the only other way for her to get to school was to take public transit that was actually more expensive than the parking pass, again, I might pay for the parking (assuming I would otherwise be paying for public transit).

But if there's no obvious benefit to anyone, and she just wants to drive to school, then no, I probably wouldn't pay for the pass. (And actually I prefer my kids *not* to drive to school, so driving would have to be a clear winner over other alternatives.)[/quote]

We pupil placed her out of her base school, so no there is no school bus.  Taking metro or the metro bus involves too much time as there is not a direct route to her school.  She is 17 and fully capable of driving herself.  I drove 34 miles to school round trip when I was her age.  I'm sure she can handle six miles a day.   Actually, DW should pay since she complains all the time about "having to drive" DD everywhere, when in point of fact it is her choice to do so.  Me?  I toss DD the car keys and tell her to drive safe!

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