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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I kept mine and our kids now have a hyphenated last name. What I don't understand are women who keep theirs and then give the children his. So tradition is okay for the kids (and all that that symbolism implies about second-class status of women) but not for the wife. That feels antiquated, too. I mean, you do all the work and then they get his name? Why? I don't get it. I know hyphenating can be cumbersome, but isn't it weird for everyone in the family to have the same name BUT you?

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I kept my maiden name, but it is difficult to spell and pronounce, though I personally love it because it is a reflection of my heritage. I just didn't want my kids to deal with spending their lives spelling/correcting pronunciation of their last name, so I gave them DH's, which is easy to spell and which no one mispronounces. Purely practical reason - not some sudden throwback to tradition.

I also had more of a say in the first and middle names of the kids, and each child has at least one name from my family. Seemed like a win-win to me.

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