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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I am completely blocking out any notion of divorce, until the youngest is in elementary school.  When I said I am worried about what will happen once the kids leave, I meant once they leave permanently as in college. I will still be in fairly young, in my early 40s. So i am mostly worried about him sleeping constantly, and me doing what?  the kids will gone and I will be left to take care of him. He is a total man child, this is a lesson to your daughters, do not marry your first boyfriend and do no marry young. [/quote]

I know what you meant. And my question still stands: why will you be left to take care of him? Only if you choose to.

I married very young. My DH has been a full parenting partner. In fact, for the last few years, our split in parenting duties has been more along the lines of him 60/me 40, due to my job.

The problem is not that he was your first boyfriend or that you married young. The problem is that you are attempting to run an organization (family) with someone who is not pulling his weight--who in fact is UNDERMINING the organization, for reasons that are entirely within his control. (It's not, for example, that he has a chronic illness.)

Your post's title is not inaccurate. You not asking for help navigating this childcare situation WITH your husband, because it sounds like he's not working WITH you on much of anything. Nor are you really asking for help navigating this CHILDCARE situation, because what you really have is not a childcare problem but a HUSBAND problem.

The lesson to our daughters should be that no one can take advantage of you without your permission.

You seem to think you are trapped well beyond elementary school. Only if you choose to be.[/quote]

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