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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. First of all, I have not told him it repulsed me. I told him I wasn't sure I was comfortable with it. I guess it is because we have a few HS-age friends of my daughter's who are cheerleaders and I wonder if the fantasy has something to do with that. I told him I can do a French maid getup, a hot nurse, etc., but this cheerleader thing feels wrong to me with these girls around here.

I try hard to appease him and want to allow him to feel comfortable discussing with me. So I will try to arrive at a different fantasy costume we could explore that I would be comfortable with [/quote]

So I'm going to disagree with almost every (every? Yep, I guess so) poster here and say nope. Nope nope nope. OP, if you're not comfortable with this whole cheerleader business, that's OK. Don't do it. And I get your explanation about feeling an association between the fantasy and your daughter's friends. Is this what your husband thinks? Hopefully not, and probably not. But this whole thread of lambasting you...you're wrecking your marriage, you're shaming your husband, and (my personal favorite) "your marriage is done and you don't even know it yet", is some ridiculously bad advice and really inappropriate pressure on you to do something you're very clear that you don't want to do.

So don't do it. It sounds like you love your husband, you're open to discussing sexuality, you're cool with other role-playing fantasies. Great. Go for it and have fun. Usually when there's consensus on DCUM there's some truth there. But this "omg you have to do it or you're a prude/idiot/about to be single" is off base and antiquated. Your husband's sexual desires don't trump your comfort level. There's a middle ground. Find it and enjoy.[/quote]

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