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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How could anyone possibly know what made the difference (if anything) in the long run?[/quote]

You can't.  I agree with your line of thinking.

Each kid is different. Parenting styles are different. I had friends who were latchkey kids who turned out to well adjusted and happy.  I had a SAHM mom and a dad who was always home, too, b/c he had a thriving business he could trust others to run for him.

totally different situations with similar outcomes

There's no secret answer, OP. People can share all they want, but there are no guarantees that your kids will be happy and well adjusted.  simply too many factors beyond our control that are at play in our children's lives[/quote]

I agree. As I was reading through these postings I kept thinking that the responses were a way for the parents to pat themselves on the back to what they thought they did right. Doesn't mean they got it right though. A better (and quite frankly more accurate) thread would be to ask each person what their parents did right. I bet the perspective from the child would be vastly different from the parents.

Case in point, if you were to ask my deceased mother what she did right, she would 100% tell you that taking us to church and raising us in the Lord was her biggest accomplishment. I, on the other hand would say WRONG! My mother was a bible thumping zealot and to this day she is the reason that I don't really like organized religion. She over did it. I would tell you that the best thing about how she raised us was to speak our minds. She was also very articulate, people respected her a great deal and she was a leader. The way she carried herself is how I model myself.

Nice thread idea, just aimed at the wrong group IMO.[/quote]

OP here. Nope, right group. I wanted to ask parents of adults what they think was important long run. Again, when you're in the weeds of small child childcare, and so are the rest of your peers, and the world seems to have gone hyper competitive, it's easy to lose focus on what actually mattered. Yes, some parents may have drastically wrong ideas - my own father credits his religious instruction of us as being the most important thing; my mother says it's because we're basically good people - but I credit most adults with knowing what mattered for their kids.[/quote]

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