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[quote=Anonymous]If you do not have trouble conceiving, then waiting might be no big deal.

If you have trouble conceiving, then every cycle is a crapshoot, and your odds of overall success keep going down. That's true regardless of age, but it's more acute later in life. Waiting for you is a big deal. It's a bigger deal than missing someone else's wedding.

Look, OP was already trying unsuccessfully for over a year, AND the due date wasn't until 3 weeks after the wedding. She said she went into labor early, and that's unusual for a first child. She and her partner had good reason not to take the wedding into account (see TTC for a year), but even so, they had good reason to believe that she wouldn't go into labor for about another month anyway.

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If everyone is so against delaying, why wait until you are so old to have kids.[/quote]

Holy Schnarks. You really can't think of any good reasons why someone might wait to have kids somewhat later in life? I can come up with five off the top of my head.

1. You don't meet someone you want to have kids with until then.

2. You are overwhelmed with other life stresses until then, and that would've been a bad decision to mix them: ill or aging parents to care for, intensive educational period, etc.

3. You're dealing with physical health issues.

4. You're dealing with mental health issues.

5. You are not financially stable, but you are working hard to change that.

Bonus points:
6. You've been trying to conceive, and it isn't taking. Couple this with #5, given the cost of assistive reproductive technology, and you've made the hat-trick.[/quote]

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