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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you should tell your mother right away, and just in a factual way, no apologizing or anything like that. Otherwise you will have to fear that the love she shows your child is conditional--she might "take it back" if she finds out the truth. If she does love your child less become you used a donor egg, it will be good to know that from the get-go so you can appropriately distance yourself from her and protect your child from that kind of toxicity. Also, you do realize that that is not fair for your mother to act sad and put you in the position of having to comfort or reassure her about something that is your business, right? If your mother routinely makes difficult times in YOUR life into a thing about her OWN feelings, it will help you to be aware of this dynamic as you become a parent yourself. You will want to make sure you avoid replicating it, and also that you put your child's needs and feelings ahead of your mother's self-centeredness. [/quote]
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