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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes! Will never forget the first time I visited DH's family and at dinner no one said a word. I couldn't believe it. In my family you are lucky to get a word in and we have big boisterous meals, almost couldn't marry him for this reason. Sadly, I am used to it now. But still find it weird.

They also sit around and watch tv and don't speak. This still blows my mind. The few times my family get s together during the year we actually talk to one another. I chalk it up to being a Midwestern thing.[/quote]

Same here.  I don't go on "vacation", because it feels like sitting in a morgue.  The television is on constantly early morning to late night - it is insane how much television one family can watch - without saying a word.  DON'T interrupt shark week!  Holy crap.   :roll:

No thanks, I'll stay home.  The best part is how they go on about how much "fun" they had.  Meanwhile I'm thinking, yeah, right.  I don't go on "vacation" to stick my nose in a book, with the television on the entire time, and ignore everyone around me.  Weirdos. [/quote]

Agreed. One Christmas DH's mom made a big thing of the whole family being together. Then all anyone did was sit around and watch tv. [b]I actually lost my shit on them about it. [/b]I couldn't believe they were spending Christmas Eve glued to the TV. [b]It was not the message I wanted conveyed to my kids. [/b][/quote]

So the message YOU conveyed to your kids was, "When people don't behave the way you want them to, lose your shit on them about it?" Got it. Stay classy!

Here's a thought: PLAN SOME ACTIVITIES. When they make a move to turn on the TV yet again, NICELY suggest that you play a game or go for a walk or go out to dinner or bake cookies or whatever instead. Like a grown-up.[/quote]

Um, I did suggest some games. They just wanted to watch tv and not talk. And, for the record, I lost my shit after the kids were in bed.[/quote]

So? You are still a control freak. "Behave the way I want, or I lose my shit!" Are you 5?[/quote]

This is the "same here" PP now (not the "lose my shit" PP) - I can sort of see her point, though I would never waste my time getting upset or confronting the IL's about it.  DH goes on the IL "vacation" without me, and I am THAT much more appreciated when it is cut short, because of the IL's bizarre behavior and it is bizarre!  MIL has started asking outsiders to join us, and no one is too eager, but they will do it, because MIL is old.

MIL takes immense (!!!) pride in being nasty, she has some personality and mental issues, so I don't really have time for that - especially when vacation time is so very short!

I wouldn't call PP's issue a control issue, at all.  But I would say not to bother spending vacation time doing that sort of thing, if it is just not working.  Some people make it very difficult to be around them, that's all.  [/quote]

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