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[quote=Anonymous]My brother and sister in law are like this. We spent a week visiting them (they invited us to visit their new home by the beach). Thankfully, we have kids (2, 4) so I focused my energy on them, but it was very, very frustrating and I doubt we will ever visit them again. We are pretty good guests, easy, neat, etc. But I felt like from the moment I walked in the door, they couldn't wait for us to leave. It was very, very passive aggressive and confusing since we were invited repeatedly to visit. I wouldn't have bothered traveling 8 hours otherwise.

Yes, the silence can be nice, but we had a side dose of weird aggression. And it was strange to see them turn on and be lovely...to other people while giving us the silent treatment.

What I realized was that they really, reallly did not want a deep or meaningful relationship with us and by trying to make one happen, I was making them uncomfortable. So, I disengaged, but what is sad is that I don't care to put energy or time into a superficial relationship. I'm pulled in too many directions, so if I am giving you my energy, it better be meaningful. So, I disengaged and have accepted that is the current state of play. Sorry for the rant OP, but maybe they just don't care to know you.

This is spot on, pp.  I am the poster who attended the baby shower of my SIL.  Luckily, my brother still tries to have a relationship with me.  One time he couldn't talk because of illness and she commented "boy, the house was super quiet without Bob talking"  I know I couldn't live like that so it is a good thing I'm not married to her![/quote]

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