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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you want to save your marriage, confront him now and have a difficult conversation with him.  Chances are he was just looking, and that may be all it is right now.  The fantasy of being wanted and having sex with younger women who admire you for your money and success is extremely powerful for men.

[b]If you want to divorce, then gather evidence like others have mentioned and blow it all up.[/b]  That makes for great TV for us here in DCUM land.

If I were you, I would do option 1.  Sounds like you have a generally good marriage worth saving.[/quote]

I'm really offended by your statement.  You are blaming the victim for the demise of the marriage when she makes decisions based on accurate but previously hidden knowledge.  The cheater is the person who "blew up the marriage".   The woman who keeps her eyes wide open and gathers facts is not the one blowing it all up.

It's people like you who further domestic abuse.  And make no mistake, cheating and lying are forms of domestic abuse.  You promote the viewpoint that the abuser's behavior is not the problem, just the victim's response.

Disgusting.

BTW, even if the husband has not "cheated" yet in the sense of reaching out to other women or having contact with other women, it is not the responsibility of the woman in the marriage to confront him and deter him from this bad behavior.  His behavior is his own.  That is why I advocate "watch and wait".  If he's going to cheat, he'll cheat.  If he's just looking or curious, he will not make the next move.  Whichever, it is not the responsibility of the woman to control this.  The time and effort we spend trying to control the men in our lives is much better spent on authorship of our own lives.

FWIW, "a generally good marriage worth saving," IMO doesn't describe having a husband who is exploring dating websites. [/quote]

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