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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's the thing.  Many of us who are larger have been shamed about our weight and appearance for years.  This can result in a situation where you are extremely sensitive about your weight and your body.  I currently avoiding being in photographs for this reason.  Even when I lose weight, I am really uncomfortable with people mentioning it because:
a.  the subtext is "You look so much better.  Geez, you used to be so fat and disgusting!"
b.  I am uncomfortable with anyone telling me something that implies that they are looking and have been looking at my body - because chances are, in the past they were not admiring it.
c.  Telling me that I look great, or I look better or that I am doing a good job with my weight loss is extremely condescending, and you are acting from a position of privilege as a thin person in rewarding me with a compliment -- which I didn't ask for, don't want, and don't acknowledge that you have the power to go around handing out.
d.  It's intrusive and inappropriate.  It crosses boundaries.  Just because I am in public doesn't give you the right to comment on my body.  I may very well have noticed your new boob job, but I"m not going to say "Hey, I think your new boobs look great.  Maybe now your husband will stop screwing around on you."[/quote]

OMG, I can't even tell someone they look great? Saying you look great is not implying you used to not look great. You people are annoying.

Also, I don't get why you were trying to lose weight for your niece's wedding. I had a cousin who was also a bridesmaid who was constantly telling me that she had to lose weight for my wedding, it took precedence over every conversation. It's great that you want to lose weight (if that's what you need to do to be healthy), but don't do it based on another persons timeline/event, and no need to discuss it with your sister.[/quote]

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