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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's rare that we get to take a big family vacation anymore as each of our individual schedules don't match up anymore, but my parents still pay for everything whenever we do anything individually.

Just last week, my mom took me on a trip to the west coast, fully funded by the parentals. I decided to stay an extra week on my own (just because I was feeling lazy and wanted do bum around), and the second I even hinted at it, my dad booked everything and upgraded my hotel accommodations and beyond upgraded my rental car from a Volvo crossover to a Maserati, just so I could have some "extra" fun on my own. I never asked them for any of this, nor do I need them to do any of it as I can afford it on my own, but they enjoy doing it. In a few weeks, my mom will be taking my youngest sister to the Middle East for 2 weeks. Again, the trip will be fully funded by the parentals, and it will be luxury everything the entire time. Even if we begged and pleaded, there's no way they'd accept a penny from us or allow us to pay for anything - even a meal or a drink - while with them.

A few years back, my dad gave us 6 months notice to get our schedules straight, and said that he's planning a mini family reunion and he's picking Dubai as the destination for it. He paid for a huge 8 bedroom villa and it was our immediate family as well as several of his brothers and their families and two of my mom's sisters and their families. He not only footed the bill for the villa, but also for everyone's airfare, all meals, all purchases, everything (for eleven full days). He knew we wouldn't get a chance to do something like this very often, so he wanted to make it happen, and he did. It was one of the most amazing experiences and it's something I'd love to do one day in the future for my family and siblings. (The villa cost $25K and the vacation itself ended up costing $45-$55K) The last trip we went on as an immediate family, was a European cruise and vacation, and for a family of 5 and my dad's best friend joining us, the whole thing cost $22,500 - to do it the way my dad likes to do it.

At the end of the day, it really depends on your budget, your life, and what you can afford to do. Our lifestyle is rather grand and at no point do I envision my parents scaling any of this back we have grown up and are adults. If anything, they do even more now and go even harder with all that they do. [/quote]

Wow your parents are loaded ?[/quote]

They are but they aren't as reckless as my post may have made them seem like when it comes to spending. It's just that big family vacations are a rarity so when they do happen, my dad goes ALL OUT. Although the smaller mini vacations we take (usually one of us with our mom) are still pretty lux and lavish, we're always more careful with what we're spending than we would be if my dad was also there. When he's around, if he even feels that we're "skimping" on something, in his own words, he'll get upset. In his eyes, vacations are a time to be care-free and that means any notion of a budget goes out the window so we can do, have, eat, drink, anything and everything we want. During non-vacation times, we are far more practical and conscious of all of our spending. [/quote]

Thanks for the explanation. Not that it matters but I didnt judge your dad at all negatively. Seems like he enjoys life in the truest sense - by bonding and helping (even when unnecessary) his family.

In any case i am not one of those DCUMers who make 500k and drive Honda Fit. Nothing wrong with some luxury if it's within the budget.[/quote]

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