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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^^ It is NOT being treated like a second class citizen to save the mother's estate for her actualy children that she created the estate for.

Nor is it being treated like a second class citizen for the step mom to not be allowed to spend her husband's children's inheritance on a big fancy house in Chevy Cahse or similarly overpriced neighborhood for herself and her own potential future children.

You probably need to do a values reassessment stepmom if you feel so passionately that this money is your money to spend.[/quote]

Fancy is relative and it was not stated in the article.  To me, 2500 square foot would be big and fancy.  And, the house I grew up in in C.C. was not a huge mansion.  It was a very small house.

Stepmom has a right to have children as dad probably agreed to it upon marriage, especially if she is raising his kids.  They may need a bigger house to have more kids or kids are going to have to share.  [/quote]

Then step mom needs to find a way to earn more money to pay for her bigger house. Nit is not the dead mom or kid's responsiility to indulge her greed and selfishness.[/quote]

Right, but it is the stepmother's responsibility to share equally in the cost of raising two children who are not hers. Got it. So many people take this view on this thread. Why would anyone ever Marion to that type of situation? Where they are presumed to be greedy and selfish because come along with taking the financial burden of raising someone else's children, she believes  that if there is a financial gain that should be shared as well.  You all are acting as though it is only the dad who is paying to raise his daughters. It's the step mom as well. She's just supposed to pay, and pay, and pay. Do it with a smile. And if there's any benefit, any indication it should be shared, even for future siblings benefit as well as the entire family, will only reflect that she is a greedy selfish monster.  Oh, and the dad is not at all responsible for marrying if his children are in this fragile state where they cannot possibly attend a high-quality public-school four years after their mother sadly died.    I wouldn't be if this is stepmother made nice with her husband, moved forward with the darlings attending their elite private school for as long as necessary, and then focused all of her attention, and their fathers attention, on children they have in the future.  Why would she take the appropriate steps in bringing the family closer and keeping her husband in close touch with his daughters if  The only assumption is that she is a selfish monster who due to no action of the fathers somehow magically replaced the exulted mother.  No one is going to sign up for a lifetime of that. Maybe 10 years. At most. [/quote]

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