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You don't think the mom's estate should be used to pay for her own children's daily expenses?  To pay for their food, camps, and the like?   [/quote]

No. Daily expenses should come out of Dad's current income. Stepmom knew when she married him that he had those expenses. She shouldn't have married him if she thinks that money he spends on his children is somehow "hers" and he's taking it away from her.[/quote]

Their marital income is theirs, not "his."  So, to sum it up, marital assets earned by both dad and stepmom should be used for housing, lifestyle, etc. Of husband, stepmom and dad's two kids.  Stepmom's income should go toward mortgage got house exactly sized for her two kids with dad, so she should be spending more than she would for housing for two adults.  Stepmother should share equally in all the financial expenses of raising his daughters, including lower retirement savings and other savings gif her and her husband due to these expenses.  But, if there is a financial benefit, that should be reserved solely for the two daughters' well being?  So step mom takes on all financial responsibilities, but the benefits go solely to pre-existing kids?  That's way beyond "marrying into an existing family," that's getting screwed![/quote]

If step.mom does not want to contribute to the family then she needs to keep her money in completely separate accounts and not mingle it with her husbands. Many married couples do this.

And yes, absolutely, dad's current and future income should go to support the children he had before the second marriage.[/quote]

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