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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dollars to donuts, her DH had a SAHM. [/quote]

I'm thinking the opposite. He probably just assumes that doing the housecleaning is a part of being a SAHM. But, apparently that's not the consensus on DCUM.

I did not know any SAHMs growing up, so I am fascinated by this phenomenon of affluent women, who go to expensive colleges, only to stay at home and raise 1 or 2 children, and not really work outside of the house until the kids are fully grown (if ever). And then somehow don't expect to be doing most of the housework and child rearing.

A previous poster suggested hiring a housekeeper. This is like a plumber saying that he needs the customer do some of the plumbing for him, or that you need to give him extra money, so he can hire a second plumber to do the actual plumbing. Would you want to hire this plumber? [/quote]

DH here.  I have some buddies who had SAHMs, and they just assume the cleaning gets magically done. Especially awful in rommates but better thank DH b/c I just moved out. [b]SAHM need to be sure to put their sons to work to break this cycle.[/b] But honestly DH example may trump their efforts. [/quote]

Do you not see the irony in this statement? Maybe some SAHPs should "get to work," since that's literally their role.

I just don't understand the attitude of a SAHP who doesn't expect to have to do a ton of cleaning and housework. Can you imagine if a SAH husband DARED to complain about his DW being messy after she got home from her FT job. DCUM would rip him a new one In fact, DCUM routinely advises women to divorce SAH DHs. It's such a ridiculous double standard.

I understand being annoyed if DH is n outrageous slob, but I don't get that impression from the OPs complaints -- certainly not enough to justify divorce. I can also understand if both parents are working -- in that case the burden should be shared. But a SAHP parent, with ONE child, should be able to handle almost all of the household stuff. Otherwise, what is the point?

Whoah to anyone who is stuck with one of these useless martyrs.[/quote]

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