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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please divorce him. My ex divorced me for precisely the same reasons and it was the best thing that ever happeened to me. I upgraded from [b]a unambitious and selfish SAH[/b] to one of the top docs in the city. [/quote]

Not to hijack this thread, but go to hell if you consider SAHs to be unambitious and selfish. Being a stay-at-home parent (and this goes for dads too) is one of the most selfless things you can ever do. Your *entire* day revolves around service to a toddler or infant. You sacrifice career goals because it is in the best interest of the child/family. It is an extremely selfless undertaking, and as is evidenced by this moron, incredibly thankless for 95 percent of the time. But I know this: When my kids are grown, I won't regret FOR ONE MINUTE staying home with them. [/quote]

Oh for Pete's sake. A man (assuming man, could be woman, of course) can state that his wife was unambitious and selfish and not be making a statement about all women who SAH. His SAH was unambitious and selfish. He wasn't happy. He is now happy with his new doctor wife. That is all about his particular life. There is literally nothing in what he wrote that is a universal statement about all SAHMs. It is entirely possible that [i]his[/i] SAH wife was, in fact, unambitious and selfish. Staying home does not mean that you can't be unambitious and selfish.

Your very self-centered response here indicates you might be a bit closer to what he divorced than you think. I was a SAHM too but when I stayed home, women like you drove me crazy with their self-congratulations. Not everything is about you! Also, for the record, it's not one of the most selfless things you can do. Or rather, there are way, way more selfless things in the world that I'd give a lot more credit to before I listed my time at home with my kids on top of that list.[/quote]

Some-- not all!-- SAHPs really need to get over themselves. And I say this as a SAHM![/quote]

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