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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sure you're a wonderful guy with great potential for love, intimacy and more. But the creeps are definitely out there in droves, and these are the ones women are worried about. It may well take 5 dates for a woman to realize you're the great guy you sound like. Don't take it personally![/quote]

So, it's OP's fault that a woman he dates is unable to distinguish between a creep (whatever that means) and a non-creep, therefore, she is justified in assuming all men are creeps?

Nuh-uh.   Every single one of you ladies, including whoever OP had the bad date with, will readily have sex on the first date with a new guy that they are sufficiently attracted to.  They may rationalize the behavior in some fashion ("too much to drink,"  "I'm not really like this"; etc.) but it's all about sexual attraction.

Bizarro women go on dates with men and then blame the men for trying to have sex with them.  But only if it's a man she doesn't want to have sex with anyway.[/quote]

Huh? I said it's NOT OP's fault. Try reading.

And you're bizarre to think that all women will jump into bed with a man if he's sufficiently attractive. You don't understand women at all, especially not our concerns about Internet randos. Do you know many women?[/quote]

No, actually, you implied the opposite of what you think you said.  Your explanation to OP of the reaction he is getting on dates is because of the woman's bad experiences with other people.  If you agree it's not OP's fault, then he shouldn't do anything different except choose different, non-nutbag women to date.  Otherwise you're implying he has some obligation to change his behavior to accomodate the nutbag women simply because they mishandled their prior relationships with other men and had bad experiences with other men.  If it's not his fault then he has no obligation to change anything he's been doing.  Instead, the emotionally disturbed women he's dating who assume that all men are creeps need to get therapy, and all OP needs to do is to avoid dating disturbed women who need therapy because they erroneously assume any man they date is a creep.

Also yes most but not all women who  are doing online dating will most certainly jump into bed with a man on the first date if they find him sufficiently attractive or even if they don't but can otherwise rationalize it to themselves.  The fact that these women (including yourself) will then lie about what they are willing to do doesn't change the reality of it.[/quote]

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