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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yelling isn't a healthy way to communicate - we know this.  But what is more troubling is that it loses effectiveness over time, so the yeller  has to up the ante in order to get the same result.  My kids started tuning out my yelling and I found myself yelling more often and yelling louder  - and still my kids didn't always listen.  That was the clue for me to stop the yelling.  Now I ask once and if I have to ask twice there are consequences (i.e, we leave the store, kid goes to their room, loss of TV privileges).  [/quote]

I wish I could do this, PP. I only yell when my kids don't do what I ask them to do. I have to remind them to do their chores, even though they are printed on a list on the refrigerator. These are intelligent, sentient beings. They simply will not do anything until I yell at them. I am frustrated beyond belief. I have explained to them multiple times that I will not yell at them if they do as I ask when I ask it. They ignore me until I start screaming, and then, and only then, do they do what I ask.

They are teens, so it's much worse. I can't stand all the yelling. My mother was a yeller, and yes it scarred me. I swore I'd never yell at my kids, yet here I am, yelling at them despite my promises to myself. Kids are so, so frustrating. [/quote]

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