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Okay, but rather than buy it, he had a coworker buy it in order to conceal it. Why hide if it was just innocent savings of mad money?[/quote]

Maybe he has a financially controlling spouse. Maybe that spouse is fine with him having $5 or $10 to occasionally goof around with, but if he had accumulated $400, would want that to go to other household expenses or outstanding debt rather than something "frivolous."
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Wouldn't that be a fair request though? I mean, who thinks it's a good idea to buy a sword when you're in debt as OP stated? That's financially irresponsible, and if the wife didn't agree with that purchase, rightfully so.[/quote]

It might be a fair request, but "no" would also be a fair answer. When my spouse and I go into austerity mode, we generally have some amount of money allocated to "general needs" for both of us. That might be $10/week if that's all we have. I might spend my $10/week on eating out one day a week, or I might save it up for a few weeks to get a new pair of shoes. If I save it up because the pair of shoes I really want is $400, should my spouse be able to try and pull it back now? I turned the $10/week into a "real" sum of money, so now it's fair game?

Sounds like OP would be all over it once it turned into real money. That's one reason to hide even an innocent savings of mad money.[/quote]

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