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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think the issue is chivalry, but courtesy.  If he is walking ahead then, yes, hold the door.  Just like I hold the door when I am walking ahead of someone.  But please don't open the car door or pull out chairs for me.  I'm a grown up and can do it myself.  That said, my DH does this when we're out on dates.  I say, honey no need.  He replies it's important to him to be a gentleman.  Even though I think it's unnecessary and a little sexist, I don't think it's worth fighting over, so accept it for what it is.  A thoughtful gesture.  If a dating partner is thoughtful overall, that is all I ever cared about, not formal gestures like opening doors and pulling out chairs.    [/quote]

To me its a courtesy issue, and not gender specific.  To the OP it should be gender specific.  I think she needs to tell guys she's dating this, so that she finds someone with the same values.  Because it would really bug me, personally, to be treated like this.   [/quote]

Yeah, it is a gender thing with me. I think men should treat women with a level of courtesy that goes beyond that given to his boys. I appreciate these things. You certainly don't have to do it, but I'm likely not going to be interested in you romantically.

Oh, and, for the record, I'm speaking of guys opening car doors and building doors for me. Also, I like when the guy lets me walk ahead of him. I am not that big on having my chair pulled out...usually, that feels a little awkward to me. [/quote]

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