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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Plan ahead and do your homework, girls. Don't be like me and get stuck with a loser who can't afford to keep things a float and APPRECIATE a woman playing a traditional role, if that is what you want.

I regret marrying my husband every day. I thought I was marrying for love but I was just being an idiot. [/quote]

I bet he regrets marrying a leech. [/quote]

Or it could be a partnership where each spouse contributes different things?  Or maybe the husband doesn't solely judge his wife on her job or lack thereof?  Is being a sahm anymore of a leech than a child?[/quote]

A teenager does not need constant, one on one hands on care (barring special needs). [b]What exactly is the SAH spouse "contributing" at that point that equals an income that will benefit everyone?[/b] [/quote]

Cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, gift buying/wrapping, home maintenance, etc. At that point its more like a homemaker.

Also, some of us are married to husbands who make so much that the incremental income we'd bring is not needed and would barely be noticed. Its not like we are living on credit card debt or skipping college/retirement savings for me to stay home. Quite the opposite.[/quote]

Your happy with your contributions to the world being cooking, cleaning, and gift buying?  Even if you don't need the money...if you're no longer actively raising to the kids don't you feel any need to contribute beyond maintaining your things?[/quote]

Yes, its a better "contribution" than working at Loft or as an instructional aide at the local elementary school, or as somebody's admin for $15/hour, which are basically the jobs I am qualified for at this point. Seems a little ridiculous to work for so little when my husband makes $400k/year.[/quote]

I'm actually curious - not trying to be snarky - what do you do that gives you fulfillment in your life?  Do you volunteer? Do a lot for extended family?  Have a hobby you're deeply into?  My husband makes a fortune and I've pondered if I've wanted to pull back to make our lives easier but I'm worried I'd feel like I had no purpose / goals / direction anymore.[/quote]

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