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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not understand holding a child back for social reasons.  If you hold a child back and keep him or her with kids 1-2 years younger, you cannot complain they are immature as you are keeping them with kids who are far younger and do not have the social skills that can help them advance. Your chid will always be behind age/socially as they haven't been given the opportunity to mature and be with peers who may be what others consider more "mature."[/quote]

You're right, you don't understand. Full stop. [/quote]
I agree with the first PP.  Plus, if the child is on-real-grade level, you are dumbing him down, forcing him to slow down academically.  And then the parent may possibly be like who the OP is talking about - complain that your child is not being challenged.

I don't know what school district you are in, but in MCPS, the test to get into the gifted program (HGC) is age-normed, meaning that an older child will have to score a lot higher than a younger child to get in. So, if a parent is thinking that redshirting a child will give a child more of a chance to get into a gifted program in ES in MCPS, this is not the case. And actually, you may be hindering the chances by purposefully slowing your child down academically.  A lot of bright kids will become lazy if they find school too easy.  This happened to me, too.[/quote]

Look, I know it is hard for you perfect moms to understand, but nobody holds back their otherwise bright kindergarten-age boy for fun, or for some kind of perceived academic or sports advantage.  Outside of DCUM is just does not happen.  Redshirting is a really serious decision and it usually only happens after a lot of discussion with teachers, school administration, and possibly your child's therapists.  The fact that the older child sticks out and has discordant rates of development is something that nobody wants or takes lightly.  If the child is bullying or acting aggressively -- yes, that is something that has to be dealt with (and probably would have been even worse if the kid wasn't redshirted).  And as far as I am aware, there is no connection between redshirting and bullying -- most likely it is the redshirted child who will get bullied (just look at this thread!)  But otherwise, your perfect child is not going to be harmed one iota by having a larger child in their class.  I get that it's much easier to judge than to try to understand other people's reality, so no big deal.  I'll just keep on trying to help my kid.  [/quote]

I've know a few boys who were redshirted.  Several were done so for sports.  This was several years ago.  OP, and others, are just stating that it's quite annoying to hear a parent complain about how their kid is not being challenged, but the parent chose to redshirt the child.   We're just saying... if you choose to redshirt for whatever reason, just don't complain your child is not being challenged.

I highly doubt any parent on here honestly thinks they're perfect. I sure don't.  Just the other day, my DS asked me what I would like to change if we could go back in time.  I said, "To be a better mom".   [/quote]

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