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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dealing with issues in a potential romantic partner and dealing with issues that your own child might have are vastly different things.  He had the option of walking away from you but I doubt that he feels that he has that option with his child (not that he would want that option!).

I think you are feeling empathetic towards this guy and you think that you know him.  But you don't know him as a father and a husband.  I'll bet that he and his wife will love that child beyond words and that, together, they will manage whatever the future might hold for their child.

You sound like a sweet person, Op.  But I don't think it's your place to comment on their private situation.

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OP here.You're absolutely right about me thinking I know him but I really don't anymore. At least part of why this is hard is that I remember how painful my injury-- something that I am sure was easier and less relevant to him (because as people have pointed out, the parent child relationship is way more important, and I get that) was to him so it just seems like this must be so unbelievably hard. But I need to give him credit for the growing up he's almost certainly done in the 6 years since we spoke and give his wife credit for her being there and they are a family now so he isn't in the same situation and is barely the same person anymore. I guess there is some hurt in acknowledging that because the whole getting cut off thing stung (not because of romantic regrets but who likes to lose an old friend? You dont make new "lifelong" friends after a certain age).[/quote]

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