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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you're not seeming to grasp OP is that if you allow your son to effectively reject your friend's son at this early stage, no effort made - you will lose this friend completely. In fact I would say there's a chance she'll never speak to you again.[/quote]

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I do grasp it. After these interactions, I'm actually hoping she'll "never speak to me again." If you read the post, you would have seen that we were acquaintances. Our superficial interactions were positive, but now that I'm getting to know her, I see otherwise. The real problem here is I was trying to be nice. [/quote]

OP, this is going to be SOOOO awkward for you & your son. This child will be your son's classmate for what is likely years to come. You will see this woman at several functions a year. If you or your son are so hurtfully blunt to spell out the fact that the friendship is just not happening - not now, not ever - then you will be committing to years of awkward avoidance. For your son, this will be a daily issue.

I know that you want this woman to just back off at this point, but think about the long term consequences. Alternatively, you could just insist that your son be kind and non-exclusionary towards this boy at group activities with his classmates (which perhaps, you might already expect?) and avoid one-on-one playdates. That's simple enough, really. Keep avoiding, delaying and prolonging acceptance of invites. Eventually accept one but then invite a couple other kids from the class to join, drop the kids off somewhere where they have something to do other than stare at each other, and let it be. [/quote]

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