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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sure if all our kids dressed in the latest fashions, people like OP would still find something to pick on these kids for.

So... I can buy the best clothes but should I tell my kid to keep their mouth shut... wouldn't want DC to be bullied for his language skills. Should I tell DC not to move their body? Their arms might flap!

Point being... it's not a matter of simply choosing to wear the right clothes. It's about being forced to conform in ways that probably won't matter much in the end anyway... But I'm glad for kids who can buy the right clothes to fit in. It's just not possible or even a good suggestion to the problem of how to fit in with peers and stop bullying. It's like blaming women for rape. Thanks. Great suggestion.[/quote]

I wonder if those taking so much offense from this are parents of younger kids/early elementary who are in the "Those things should not matter" mindeset.

I am the parent of a now teen who wishes that I would have started making these types of changes back in fourth grade to maybe preempt some of the sixth grade bullying (which wasn't directly getting bullied about clothes but being different and looking younger, of which the clothes were the bullseye that brought attention to his peers that my lego shirt wearing kid was less mature, a little kid still, etc.). My very mature and socially adjusted but still geeky teen says the same thing, that it would have helped to look like his friends in sixth and not like a little kid.

The otyer people who say they agree with OPs sentiment (even if they don't agree with the tone) all seem to also have teens. They know through hindsight that those things which shouldn't matter, really, really do. And as I posted earlier, making those changes when the kid suddenly realizes it is a problem is often too late, or can make the problem worse.

We are past that now, but boy I wish I would have made chanyes to his kid wardrobe earlier...in fourth, not trying to fix it in sixth.

I am not offended by OP because as caustic as she is, she is right.

And if I would have led those wardrobe changes starting earlier, instead of waiting until my heads in the clouds son realized he looked different and no one was wearing sweats and minecraft Ts in 6th, then ihe would have had a much better time of it during those rough years.

So consider OPs post a very poorly wrapped piece of insight towards a very simple thing you can start with your middle elementary kids to maybe make the roughest years a little easier for them.

Because like it or not, in yrades 5-12th, peer approval, acceptance, fitting in and being one of tye crowd is tue most important thing of all to most kids.[/quote]

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