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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife moved out leaving me primarily with the kids.  She had/s an affair with a co-worker, which for very obvious reasons (not relevant here) can never really go anywhere. In other words, it has an expiration date.

The timing of when she said the classic "I love you but am not IN love with you" was precisely when she "fell in love" with her affair partner.  She says that, of course, her falling out of love with me had nothing to do with the other man.

Does anyone have any experience with reconciliation after the "spell" of the affair ends?  I am wondering if it is worth waiting around.  I know it sounds pathetic, but I honestly believe she's acting this way out of some insanity.

Anyway, any experience or thoughts appreciated.[/quote]

It's so weird - this exact thing just happened to me, too. I'm not sure if my ex-W / AP has an expiration date or not, but I decided to move on. Too much deceit to ever re-build our friendship or trust. I had thought exactly like you are - I'll just wait this thing out. But then I started asking myself how will I feel if/when she does come back? What will have changed that this won't happen again? Most importantly, how would I get through these long months knowing that she's with the new man while I sat waiting for her? I had to stop trying to re-construct the time-line of her affair and start to focus on what I needed to do to recover, and to help my kids through this. So, like you, I am taking care of the house and kids while she is 'dating' her new man. And you know what? Everyday I get filled with a little more self-respect and pride at what I'm doing and how I'm doing it. That's something she can't take from me. 
-BobRoss[/quote]

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