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[quote=Anonymous]Ok OP -- instead of just bashing you, how about coming up with a plan?

You say DH's company would move NEXT YEAR. We're only in the beginning of April -- so you have AT LEAST 8 months to look for a job even if you don't start until May 1; and that's if the move happens precisely Jan 1, which it may or may not.

First decide if you even want to try to look. If you do, I would (i) call a recruiter (ask your friends for a rec and esp. ask your friends formerly at your firm who've moved on -- likely they spoke to a recruiter at some point). Talk to the recruiter about your seniority, how hot/not the Dallas market is, what they think the timing would be. Some will be very honest in telling a 13th yr associate (which you're not) that no biglaw firm will take them and they ought to be considering smaller firms. And (ii) I'd call one or both of your judges and get lunch with them. Judges are typically older and have been around forever and you are NOT the first of their former clerks who need to move. Maybe they have ideas on people to connect with. Maybe they know their fellow judges have sent a few former clerks to Dallas and can connect you with them. You just never know. And even if your judges know nothing about Tx. firms, chances are they'll have some insight re the SEC and DOJ. Maybe they can even hook you up with yet another clerkship that can launch a legal career in Texas.

Those are 2 starting points. Give yourself some time to wrap your brain around this and then set a deadline that says -- by May 15 (or 30) I will have done these 2 things and set a "plan" for myself.

It's one thing if you give it a go for 8 months and get ZERO interest or offers. But if you do nothing and say "I can't get a job there," your DH will rightfully wave in your face that he moved 4 times in 8 yrs for you, for clerkships that are "optional" in a legal career, and bc of that as you say -- he has probably cost himself some promotions and here you are not even willing to try.[/quote]

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