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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Bit of a spin off here.  I have 1 year old same sex twins.  I totally get that it's not a package deal, but how do you deal with hurt feelings?  Or, worst, if it keeps happening and one is more popular than the other?  Maybe I should start a new thread...[/quote]

I won't lie to you. It's an issue and I'm one that likes to separate same gender twins so they can have their own circle of friends. There was one painful week when we got an invite about one party birthday, but it wasn't addressed to a specific child. It was a very small party according to the guest list and the RSVPs were clearly for one child.

Before I had a chance to email the parents, Twin A and I ran into Larla during pick up one afternoon and Larla asked if Twin A was coming to the party. I kind of checked that off my to do list by RSVP'ing for Twin A. What I didn't realize is that Twin B had been playing with Larla at recess and eating lunch with Larla for two weeks straight. The next day at school lunch Twin B was sitting with Larla as usual and the party apparently came up. Twin B recounted to me that Larla mentioned that she wanted to add Twin B to the list for her party and had told her mom to send me an email. No email that day. We then ran into Larla together at school a few days later after an activity and she mentioned again that her mom would email me to add Twin B to the party. Larla's nanny was with her and was nodding when Larla was talking about this. Well that email never came either. Maybe the mom was busy or she forgot or didn't have room or whatever. I did not know the mom and thought that if she didn't include the other twin there was good reason for it so I didn't bring myself. I ended up taking Twin A alone to the party. Twin B was DEVASTATED and cried for several days. It was awful. Both kids are used to not being invited to parties that the other attends but this was the first time it was the party of someone both considered a friend.

Not sure what I could have done differently. Maybe I should have emailed Larla's parents anyway? Or changed my RSVP for the first twin to a no? This party stuff is normally fun but when situations like this come up it's really hard to see your child hurting so much at such a young age.
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