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[quote=Anonymous]Both of my parents got remarried and I have 4 great half-sisters because of it.  It wasn't always perfect, but it's turned out to be a tremendous blessing.

I am divorced, have twins, and primary custody.  My long-term bf lives with us.  He's divorced and has twins as well, but they live with their mother out-of-state.  Our twins are about 2 years apart in age.  It works out pretty well but we make a concerted effort to make sure I have time with my kids and he has time with his kids.  If the occasion arose and his kids were to live with us, I'd happily welcome them.  It would be challenging for everyone, I'm sure, but I have a lot of experience and believe strongly in family counseling.

I will not be having anymore children - mostly because I want my children to have at least one parent who is just theirs and not to feel left out.  While I love my sisters and my huge family, they each have memories and traditions that don't include me.  Part of this is because there is a significant age difference (I'm 10 - 20 years older than my sisters) and because I was at the other parents house at time.  I sometimes feel that I'm not fully apart of the family because I can't reminisce on everything they can.  It's a little bit lonely feeling.  I don't want my children to experience that - so no more kids for me.

I'm saddened by the vitriol in this thread.  Parents deserve happiness and don't have to put their lives on hold until their kids are grown.  That's not right, nor healthy.  It is important that parents take the children into consideration when choosing a new partner.  If my parents had waited until I was grown - my life would be a shit show and I wouldn't have the great family that I do.[/quote]

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