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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am very surprised to see the vitriol toward remarried parents here.

I have an original family and have never been, nor do I think I will ever be, divorced. But I still think that post-divorce, if someone wants to get remarried there isn't really anything selfish about that, provided the new spouse is a good person. It almost seems to me like people are looking at the wrong variable here - of course divorce is sad and hard and children bear the brunt of it. But a child of divorce with a single parent or parents doesn't seem like they'd be happier than the child of divorce with a nice step-parent. The kids I knew growing up with divorced parents could be emotional messes with messy lives, but having a step-parent didn't make that worse automatically. I guess I don't get the hate toward parents who fall in love again?[/quote]

Agreed. I think the best thing is not to divorce. The posters saying the issues are carried into the next relationships are spot on. But....if you do divorce, or your spouse walks out on you with his AP and divorces you as mine did, then you deserve to remarry and be happy. Your kids have the stain of divorce on their childhoods whether or not you remarry. [/quote]

First your kids deserve to be happy. Their needs come first...certainly...before your next husband. It all depends on how your child feels, if he/she likes your new bf. Would he/she want him to move in or both of you move to his home with his kids?  [/quote]

A lot of kids are happier when their parents remarry. Particularly younger ones. Combined incomes aren't a bad thing in this day and age. [/quote]

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