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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks everyone. It's helpful to see some replies to get a sense of whether I am being overly senstive/paranoid or not. My hunch is that I have already shown plenty of flexibility with DH and his social life, and that it is not unreasonable for me to draw a line where I no longer feel comfortable. And for me, I think that line is around 2-3.

I wish I felt more entitled to say to him, "I'm not comfortable with these friendships or this behavior. If they are really friends, then please invite them over, or invite me to join you with them."  Unfortanately, what I fear is what some other posters have offered here, which is that jealousy is unattractive and I will come off looking like a jerk, infringing on DH's social life. And thus push him away further. That makes me scared to start the conversation with him, as I fear I will quickly lose my position of "hey, i'm not feeling so cool with this." and instead find myself on the defensive and accused of being a crappy/paranoid wife.

I agree with 10:13 - there is some "hit" or validation that DH is getting from these friendships that he clearly isn't getting at home from me. And that makes me so sad. That's the conversation I really want to have with him.

Any tips on how to start the conversation in a way that will make it productive? Keep us talking about the big picture and not make me look like a whiny, demanding wet blanket of a wife?  [/quote]

Hey, these people from the bookstore sound really fun, and I'd love to meet them.  Let's invite them over to watch the game next Saturday!"[/quote]

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