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[quote=Anonymous]This string is really horrifying to me.  My husband had a 9-month long affair that he claims is over, but he also has told me that he basically thinks I am horrible and the cause of all of his problems in life.  I had no idea he felt this way about me.  I thought he loved me and we were going through a rough time because we have young kids and that is hard.  But now he tells me how he is not sure he ever loved me and that I am the reason for him betraying me.  I am not saying I am perfect and I have my share of flaws (mostly that I can be emotionally distant due to my own upbringing, so his main accusation is that I am cold), but we had what I thought was a supportive, loving home.  Honestly, I think he's going to leave some day anyway. Ironically, I am about emotions these days and am working with a therapist who has been amazing.

As I have been sifting through this, I have been getting closer to thinking divorce is the best option because I am not sure how to deal with him and I am beyond hurt, obviously.  I have done everything I possibly could do to fix things.  But he still tells me basically on a weekly basis that he just doesn't feel anything towards me.  I am getting more comfortable with the probable demise of our marriage, but then I read stuff like this and just really don't want to hurt the kids.  They are both under 5.  At what point does the scale tip in favor of divorce?  I definitely don't want to cause a lifetime of pain for them, they are my world.    [/quote]

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