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[quote]It's not ghostwriting of essays that we are speaking of. IF (and I say IF) you want your child/or your child wants to attend a "most selective school", it takes a lot of planning starting @ sophomore year. You need to figure out what special talents or true interests your child has an encourage extracurricular activities and excellence in those fields. they need to demonstrate a mutli-year interest in public service (the Common App. asks how many years you have done each activity so don't think you can load up senior year). For Tech schools, your child needs to finish calculus by the end of junior year with an A and show chemistry and hopefully physics completed by then. You need to have thought of a unique way to position your child so when they write their essays the admissions committee can say "I can see that kid walking and doing X on our campus". You need the grades. You need National Merit (PSAT). You need great SAT or ACT scores. YOu need terrific SAT II subject matter scores - some of which cannot be obtained without taking many AP courses or taking college courses in the summer before senior year. Some schools want to see two languages studied. Then you have to decide on a strategy - does your child have one special pick that is SCEA (single choice early action ). If so, that means she cannot apply to any other privates but may apply to elite publics so long as they are not ED (binding). For example, VA Tech is binding. You also want to apply early to a safety school with rolling admissions so your child is in somewhere before the madness starts. October 15th is now the application date for many honors schools such as Purdue Honors and Ga Tech Honors. Then Nov. l is SCEA and EA. Then come the regular decision applications in January if you aren't satisfied with your SCEA or EA. Or, in our case, SCEA was deferred and the EAs didn't come in until after Jan. 1st, so the RDs still had to go in. Then comes the FAFSA which you must fill out even if you have no shot at financial aid but hope for some merit aid. Then the CSS form. THEN - the "continuing interest" letters go in now with fall term's grades and any other honors racked up in the meantime. Meanwhile your poor kid has written out the Common App. but don't believe people when they say you just push buttons. The more elite schools all require side essays. Once that's done, it's $90 per application plus fees to send the college board scores, the ACT scores and the AP scores. This is not the era when we wrote out four applications, handwrote out a sloppy essay, got a $30.00 check from mom, mailed it all in in January and got into Stanford and 3 others on April lst.[/quote]

Holy crap! Parents who haven't been through the process - it doesn't have to be this bad if your child is not bound for a "most selective schools" (and your ego can handle sending them to a school that isn't in the top 10).   I assume someone besides me on DCUM has a child who gets a fair number of Bs and isn't the president of everything.  The college application process is a hell of a lot less crazy for these kids and does not require nearly the level of helicoptering.

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Can we be BFFs? Maybe this is a reverse humble-brag, but I'm glad my kid isn't in the rat race for the most selective schools for just this reason. The problem, of course, is that those who lose this rat race infiltrate the second-, third- and fourth-tier schools that are ideal fits for my solid but not superstar kid.[/quote]

Well, forget the Ivies, do you want your kid to get into UVA or a good state school?  That's what it takes.  Now go to college confidential and type in University of Virginia EA 2020 and read the resumes of the kids who were rejected at UVA for early action.   Or look up the reusmes EA rejections of any school that you are thinking of sending your child to.  Harvard and Yale both just received 37,000 applications this year and Princeton 27,000 just for SCEA.  This system is utterly broke and it is only going to get more worse.  If you want in-state, that's getting more competitive and much of the competition is coming from overseas.  The EA class of GA. Tech has 97% taking (past tense, meaning already done by applicaiton on Oct. 15) AP calculus and 10 or more college-level courses.  http://www.news.gatech.edu/2015/01/12/tech-accepts-5273-students-early-action-admission.  Many of those are Chinese and Indian.  I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but today's college application process is nothing like it was for me 20 years ago.  Read "What your high school won't tell you about the college application process".[/quote]

+1 Our friends are VA residents and not helicopter parents at all, nor striving for name brand colleges, but I can't believe how involved they were because it was absolutely necessary. The DH made it practically a full time job because they needed tuition help. They also previously researched colleges that wouldn't be affordable, including their big name state school alma mater, and took them off the table so there wasn't any heartbreak at admissions time. It can be a lot to look at majors, schedule visits, check myriad forms, and help your student navigate.[/quote]

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