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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is a familiar situation, except that I have 2 MILs and a SIL and they all went nuts when the baby was born. It got better after 2 years, [b]but their initial behavior had a serious impact on my marriage and I will never forgive them that.[/b] [/quote]

This is the key issue. Your ILs negatively impacted your marriage during a time they should have been supporting it. This sounds like OP's problem too. OP's MIL is a source of stress and creating friction between OP and her husband.

OP, can you get your husband to stand up to his family? He needs to set boundaries with them. Can you and your husband agree to a few things that MIL can do to be helpful, like do dishes once a week and she can also have a brief, concrete time with the baby (read the baby a story after you nurse, etc.)? If MIL is just going to react by looking wounded and making it clear that her needs aren't being met, then she doesn't get even that. The bottom line is that your MIL is a source of stress at a very vulnerable time for you. The most important thing is for you and your husband to get into a good routine as parents. If MIL is hindering as opposed to helping that effort, then she needs to stay away until you're stronger. Good luck.[/quote]

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