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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I just posted on this same topic on the other thread, but it seems that the caring things women do (making your lunch, buying your clothes, picking up your underwear off the floor) are discounted. I don't mean to say they are the be-all and end all, but the fact that somebody cares enough to DO those things for you is important. Not that you couldn't do yourself, but that somebody cares enough to do them for you.

But. That isn't what we are seeing. Men say they don't care for the things women do for them,[i] they just care if they have sex.[/i] I think, however, their care and comfort is important to them, but they aren't valuing it. [/quote]

Actually, I think you'd get more posts by men that were more sentimental and appreciative of their wives if that other thread hadn't beat the hell out of men for the last couple of days.  You can bet the men who read that thread are on here as well.

Speaking only for myself, I can say that, yes, I love my wife.  I value her for many things, not just sex.  But those things are companionship, support, love, friendship and caring for and loving our son together.  I don't need a maid, or a cook, or a personal assistant.  I grew up with a mother who expected me and my siblings to be very independent.  I came into my marriage already knowing how to take care of myself.  Most men don't marry for kids or domestic help.  We marry because we fall in love with a woman we think we want to spend the rest of our lives with.  There's typically no other agenda there.  As for kids, we don't marry so we can have them, but once we do have them we fall in love with them.  The poster who said we don't put up with women so we can have kids, but because we DO have them was correct as far as that goes.

All that said, and as much as I love my wife and as much as I'd miss her if she were gone, I'd do just fine without her.  She can't cook worth a damn, she has mostly outsourced house cleaning, she does the bare minimum in the bedroom and, frankly, I'm a much better parent than she is.  I don't think it would be better without her, but not for the reasons many of the bitter harpies list here and on the other thread.  [/quote]

Honestly, I wouldn't marry me, either, at this point. I'm not a bitter harpy, but I sure am an asshole. He's probably be better off without me.[/quote]

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