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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, my DH and I are in a similar position. We've got small kids and I'm pregnant and he's on medication for depression. You name it, we've checked every libido-killing box there is. What we do is set expectations. We've talked a bunch about frequency of sex and both of our expectations, and agreed that we need to have sex at least once a week (both to keep our physical connection and because we both want that). He would love it more often, I'm sure, whereas I could do it a bit less frequently.

Regardless, what we do it build it up throughout the day. He'll text me at work and let me know he's thinking about sex for that night. Or I'll do the same. Then when we get home from work, there's more affection, more kissing, longer hugs, a nice pat on the ass, raised eyebrows, whatever. So we both know the date is still on after the kids are in bed.

When he rolls over in bed at 11 pm and tries to initiate, I almost am never in the mood. But building it up throughout the day sets the expectation. And we usually follow through, even if the non-initiator is tired, or whatever, because we already agreed to do it.

Anyway, that's how we handle it. But we only got there through talking it out and coming to that as the agreed-upon way to do things. So you obviously need to have that conversation with your wife. GL![/quote]

Yeah ^^^^ this is great stuff. I love getting in the mood by anticipating all day. When DH just gropes me when I want to sleep ... icky.[/quote]

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