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[quote=Anonymous]NP here to echo everyone who says "avoid all contact" and scrub the world of your contact info.  When I was in college I dated a guy for about 8 weeks, broke it off, and then he got stalkery.  After being too nice for too long, I told him to cease all contact.  He was able to sweet-talk my grad school into giving information about me and a woman in admissions actually called me to advise me on the relationship (she later called back and apologized, but it was incredibly invasive).  Later, I was required to keep an online presence for business reasons, and he used to contact me at work from time to time -- basically to show that he could find me if he wanted to.  It took almost 10 years for him to stop contacting me.

I actually wrote Dear Prudence about him -- the lady who preceded Emily Bazelon in that role -- and although she didn't run my letter, she replied personally to tell me not to contact him.

FYI, there are some terrible "white pages" websites that post your personal information that they find through public records.  You can write those websites and have the information taken down: tell them they are endangering your family and they will do it (that's what I did).

As other PPs have said, take down as many profiles as possible.  I am not in my church directory, I deleted my LinkedIn account, I got my licensing board to scrub my address records so that only a corporate address shows now, etc.  The only thing I still have is a facebook account, which I keep locked down.  I agree with PPs who say to keep your old email address and social media accounts so you can track his interactions, but get new accounts for normal use and lock down the privacy settings.

Please take this seriously.[/quote]

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