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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's your husband's family. Go with the flow. It's a kid sport, not the NBA.[/quote]

I agree with you completely up to the point that the party was cancelled and we then made the commitment for our son to now attend the game.  It's the back and forth that I have the problem with.  There was no question that our son would miss the game before the cancellation was made.  [b]Given that the team is small and we're less than a week out from the game, it does have an impact on the team and the coach.[/b]  Since we can go to both the game and the party, I just believe we should honor the commitment we made after the party was cancelled.[/quote]

I agree with you, OP.[/quote]

Why is the impact on the team any greater now than it as when you first said you couldn't make it?  I assume the team hasn't loss members since then?  Did the coach have a set line-up already, and if so, would it be any harder to alter that line-up now than two weeks ago?  Honest question.  Maybe if they no longer have enough players, or if somebody else dropped out in reliance on your son being able to play, that would mean something.  Otherwise, I am not seeing it?[/quote]

The team is small and my son's a key player, so there's some planning on the coach's part, but that's not the main point for me.  It's just rude, IMO, to keep going back and forth.  We said we'd be there and now we should go.[/quote]

I agree, OP. I think the solution that your husband and any other kids go to the party and you and your son meet them there later is a reasonable solution. While I value family A LOT , I also want my kids to see that it's important to keep commitments and not jerk other people around and that reasonable solutions can be found. [/quote]

Honestly curious about this "honoring commitments" issue.  Do most of you have your child attend sporting events because they have made a commitment to be there when there is a friend's birthday party?  a wedding?  another grandparent's birthday?  the opportunity for a fun family getaway weekend?  For my third grader's sports and other practices, we are pretty lenient about letting her miss for other activities.  I'm wondering how far outside the norm we are?[/quote]

Well, you're not teaching her to be responsible. Is that what you want?[/quote]

No, it is not what I want.  I believe I am teaching her responsibility in lots of other ways.  I think I am also teaching her to value relationships, and at this young age I think I have struck the right balance for my child.

[b]For what it is worth, I was asking a sincere question to see what other parents do[/b].[/quote]

I understand, and you got a sincere answer.[/quote]

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