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Wow, either this whole thread is made-up or OP is suffering from the cooped-up and frustrated idiots in this area.

OP, I'm sorry that your husband is being so cruel. First contact a lawyer. Put money regularly into your own account.

It can never hurt to find a better paying job. I know it's hard!
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Nothing cruel about it. The gravy train is over.[/quote]

Oh so taking care of everything at home - from cooking and cleaning, shopping for groceries, driving their daughter around, not to mention all of the kin-keeping tasks like buying gifts, sending birthday cards, calling his parents on their anniversary, then liaising with teachers and administrators for their daughter, keeping track of what's running low in the house, paying the bills and taxes and balancing the check books... [b]that's a gravy train? Really?[/b] No. If this were a real post she'd be entitled to alimony because all the work she did behind the scenes allowed him to excel at his office. [/quote]

Yes, it is a gravy train because you are over-estimating the importance and/or required time commitment for these mundane tasks to justify your lack of real work.  If you REALLY think that "buying gifts and sending birthday cards" takes much thought/time, you might have some kind of learning disability that is the true reason you would struggle to do this while holding down a full-time job.  How hard is it to point and click on a website to have a gift delivered to your door?  How hard is it to buy a pack of cards and then fill out one as needed?  Do you REALLY think that "calling his parents on their anniversary" and "liaising" with teachers is not something that you can easily do in a few moments during a lunch break from a real job?  Why are you still using "check books"?  Don't you use online banking?  Paying bills is NOT time consuming unless you suffer from ADHD: do you?  Why can't you share cooking/cleaning tasks with another primary breadwinner?

If you want to sah and can afford it, great.  But don't pretend that being a sahm is anywhere near as demanding as a full time job: you only make yourself look foolish.[/quote]

You sound like a really unpleasant person.  While I agree that as a WOH parent I manage all of those things.  I am sure there are things that could be done better for our hoesholed if my spouse or I did not work.  It is a decision each family has to make.

I think accusing the OP of having learning disabilities is really obnoxious.  It reflects the type of person you are and your own prejudices.

Many people with those difficulties manage all of these responsibilities and more while working outside of the home.  They also manage to be kind and understanding to others who are different from them. [/quote]

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