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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your one kid is out of the house in college why on earth WOULDN'T you be working? You're just going to sit around the house all day doing... what? Your husband is right. If SAHM was your contribution, and the kid is gone, you need to make a new contribution to the household. He might like to retire one day, you know.

My oldest is in K and I will be back to work in the next 2 years when my youngest can go. Nobody needs a SAHM who has nothing to do for 7-8 hours a day. [/quote

My kids are in elementary and I've been at home since my oldest was born 11 years ago (though I'm returning to work next month). My situation may be different in that I worked in the social services field and wasn't a high earner - plus my field is much easier to return to than many others, like law.
But staying home was a joint decision and my DH felt that it made his life easier in a lot of ways. The decision to return to work this year was mine, not his.

But we aren't "ambitious" - we're happy in a middle class lifestyle with our basic needs met but few luxuries. We like being home by 6pm and we don't mind road-tripping on vacations instead of flying, driving old cars, buying inexpensive clothes, not updating our home, etc. Our values line up that way, so DH didn't feel pressured as the sole provider all those years. We are very satisfied to live within our means.

I have complete respect for working moms and I would hope they don't perceive me with derision, as reflected in so many of these threads. But I've learned to let go of what others think of the choices I've made - life is far too short. 
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