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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is all personality. I have four. Two have had epic meltdowns. The other two, none that I can remember.[/quote]

I think some of it is personality, for sure.  Intense people are intense, passive people are passive, quiet, introverted people are....

AND I also think that parenting has much to do with helping children to learn how to move through a tantrum, or a parent can learn to head a tantrum off at the pass, which means that their child doesn't ever have the tantrum.

I've seen parents egging their children on, upsetting and frustrating them, and then act all upset themselves when their child just loses control and screams, cries, etc.  And I so much want to walk over and say "well, what did you expect, you just teased, taunted, bait and switched for the last 10 minutes!"

But again, if you have a very intense child who FEELS everything SO MUCH, then you will get tantrums - because they SO CARE that they can't have grapes RIGHT NOW.  Other kids don't care so much.

My sister's first child didn't tantrum.  She was an incredibly easy going infant, toddler and preschooler.  Amazing.  However, she whined like nobody's business, and she was like water dripping on a rock when she wanted something.  "I want to have a snack now. How come I can't have a snack now? But I know it's close to dinner time, but I just want a snack, a little itty bitty snack.  What about if I had 10 grapes?  What about if I had one bag of crackers?  But I'm really hungry, I need food.  How about this, if I have snack now....."  freakin' on and on and on.

Or I want to use brother's marbles, not mine.  But I want to, his are diffeerent than mine (no, there aren't).  But I'd really like to, I'll just use them for a few minutes, just a little bit, he needs to learn to share (right, he's 2 YEARS younger than you...), how about if I use half of his and half of mine..... again, on and on and on.

And of course eventually she'd wear her parents down and she'd get what she wanted.  But she never had a tantrum.

Personally, I'd rather have a child throw down, get it out of his system, then move forward (still without said snack or marbles, omigod) than wear me down like that.  (although it never worked with me - because I wouldn't let her keep on and on but that's different parenting styles)[/quote]

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